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This guy (I assume guy) had been with a woman for three years and living together for two of them, and he up and disappeared and moved to another country without telling her because he wanted to “avoid being untangled in a break-up drama” (sic), to the point where she was trying to track him down via his family members.
And now he just found out she’s about to be his new boss.
I feel like after a couple of months, and especially when you’ve been LIVING TOGETHER, it crosses the line from “ghosted” to “abandoned.” Jesus Christ, dude, you’re a terrible person.
HOO BOY, THERE’S AN UPDATE, GUYS.
He doesn’t get why she would involve the board chair in a conversation, and he blames feeling like he was forced to resign on favoritism because her husband comes from a prominent local family. (Even though the conditions the chair placed on him staying – “we are never to talk to each other without a third person present, all meetings documented, no discussion about her and the management with my colleagues, not even in watercooler chat, limit our interactions beyond the school” – seemed 100% reasonable.)
Sorry I don’t feel bad for you, guy. She was incredibly professional about the whole thing and willing to work with him anyway, she brought in her boss so that everything would be transparent and on the up-and-up, and he is behaving as if he’s the aggrieved party.
She sounded entirely professional and reasonable; he sounds like a whiner who wants to blame everything on someone else. Good riddance to him.
He somehow managed to seem like an even bigger asshole than his original letter made him out to be. Bravo, sir. (Also love the fact that he can’t conceive of a scenario in which he’s not entitled to this poor woman’s time. Not allowed to talk to her whenever he wants? Can’t handle it and quits.)
Also: Is angry his ex didn’t talk about this with him privately first. After he ghosted and abandoned her without a word after three years together. Yeah ok, buddy, you’re really in a position to tell someone how they should talk things through.
All of that stuff is absolutely textbook for what you’d do if manager ends up with a direct report with whom they are in some way entangled. The documentation is a CYA for both parties, having a third party present provides a witness in case something untoward happens, and cautioning him against mentioning their history would also be de rigeur. The only thing I could see being legitimately punitive is not socializing with his coworkers, which is either something he could have handled for a year before quietly transferring or could have eventually been relaxed a little bit once he demonstrated some professionalism.
Instead he made it about him and spontaneously quit right at the beginning of his school year, leaving his girlfriend behind with no warning (again!). What an asshole.
This is like a master class in entitlement. I love that he blames HIS OWN CHOICE TO RESIGN on her husband being from a “prominent” family and then misunderstanding the concept of nepotism.
I ghosted my ex, and she’s about to be my new boss
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